Both roads lead to hazardous situations that we can’t predict.
In other words, there's a wide range of what's considered normal.
Parents everywhere struggle to respond appropriately to the challenging behavior, hit-or-miss communication, and fluctuating moods we see in teenage girls. As a clinical psychologist specializing in teens, I work with teen girls and their parents nearly every day.
A lot of girls who come to therapy are stressed and lack the ability to cope in healthy ways.
It's appropriate for teens to be oriented more to their peers than their parents now, but kids who are well grounded in their families will respond well to parents' efforts to stay connected.
And parents who have bonded adequately with their children at each earlier stage will feel invested enough in their teens to stay connected, even if a lot of effort is required.